tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post8863179356635477038..comments2023-07-11T06:02:19.924-04:00Comments on Callapitter: Holy decade, Batman!amy http://www.blogger.com/profile/07774675561472726666noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-2682064667843687752010-01-04T15:31:33.587-05:002010-01-04T15:31:33.587-05:00Amy...you are AMAZING...i think of you so often......Amy...you are AMAZING...i think of you so often...u have no idea. Your comment..."if we forget the bad then we forget the good too" is so true!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-7565531804452837172010-01-04T13:04:55.337-05:002010-01-04T13:04:55.337-05:00No pressure, of course, but . . . please, please d...No pressure, of course, but . . . please, please do the book! And, honestly, after the decade you've experienced, I'm thinking your publisher would totally let you go with the whole "what the fuck?!?" instead of the WTF...<br /><br />All that said, your idea to constantly remind one's self of the things to be happy about/thankful for has been a great tidbit of advice. So thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-78423107152414324532010-01-04T12:56:36.518-05:002010-01-04T12:56:36.518-05:00Hope you're doing okay - we haven't heard ...Hope you're doing okay - we haven't heard from you in awhile!<br />-AshleyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-80706531783090781902010-01-04T12:26:56.217-05:002010-01-04T12:26:56.217-05:00Amy, you are an amazing woman and I thought a lot ...Amy, you are an amazing woman and I thought a lot about you and your kids over the holiday. Please know that you have many strangers praying for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-16687326285928516612010-01-04T11:14:21.733-05:002010-01-04T11:14:21.733-05:00I had the extreme pleasure of briefly meeting Kate...I had the extreme pleasure of briefly meeting Kate and Peter at a small gathering a few years ago (I think it was a holiday party or something at Jeffrey’s apartment in Regent Square). I’d been thinking of you ever since Jeffrey told me the news. Like the many that have commented on this post, I saw the article of you in the Post Gazette last week and immediately went to your blog. I. Spent. The. Whole. Day. Reading. It. I was completely hooked. I hid behind my computer at work, crying. I admire your courage and your honesty and your spirit and your everything. You are an amazing woman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-28220894315556807062010-01-02T13:43:20.428-05:002010-01-02T13:43:20.428-05:00I am new to reading your blogs but I am hooked now...I am new to reading your blogs but I am hooked now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-81446034788172035942010-01-01T21:54:46.225-05:002010-01-01T21:54:46.225-05:00I came across your website while looking for somet...I came across your website while looking for something else. <br /><br />Your attitude in the face of so much loss in the last year is inspiring. <br /><br />Hugs to you!Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01996941930416983218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-25897208017606118862010-01-01T15:10:46.878-05:002010-01-01T15:10:46.878-05:00Amy,
I check in from time to time (Thanks to Gin...Amy,<br /> I check in from time to time (Thanks to Ginny at That's Church) and just wanted to offer my support as you begin your new year. I like your daily Top Ten list idea. When I'm having a bad day, I'll need to remember to do that because I definitely have more to be thankful for than upset over. Continue to write and continue to heal and we'll be here for support!Angelanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-79624250499436569702010-01-01T12:40:43.939-05:002010-01-01T12:40:43.939-05:00Amy, I read the article about you last night in th...Amy, I read the article about you last night in the Post-Gazette and was moved by your story. I have a 6 year old myself and cannot imagine going through what you've experienced. You're amazingly strong and inspiring. I'm originally from Pittsburgh, but have lived in CA for a while now. I've recently been making jewelry and wanted to offer you to pick a necklace from my website as something to give you hope and joy in the new year. My link is http://flydesigner.etsy.com. If you view the necklaces in the list format, I have the top 4 in stock at my house now and can ship 1 off to you. WIshing you happiness and peace in the new year.<br />Shannon Smuts<br />shush1@yahoo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-46699006363881097592010-01-01T12:00:46.909-05:002010-01-01T12:00:46.909-05:00You certainly have endured more than your share of...You certainly have endured more than your share of heartache the past decade, Amy, and my heart goes out to you. Still, we cannot forget the past, nor should we wish to, as you so eloquently point out. We are who we are the result of everything that happens to us, both the good and the not so good. What’s important is going forward. We heal, to an extent, but the scars remain. Best wishes to you for the next decade, as you journey onward. I know words can do little to assuage your anguish, but take comfort in that others share your grief.J. Conrad Guesthttp://jconradguest.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-5685561050150400082010-01-01T09:16:46.526-05:002010-01-01T09:16:46.526-05:00Amy...you are truly a beautiful person and your ch...Amy...you are truly a beautiful person and your children we awesome! I think about them all the time and I send my angels to play with them and keep 'em company! I always find comfort in finding pennies on the ground and knowing that one of my angels has sent them to me to remind me that they are still "here" and looking out for me as I am always looking out for them and remembering the happiness they brought into my life...peace to you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-51019183299390414462010-01-01T03:04:26.078-05:002010-01-01T03:04:26.078-05:00You are a wonderful writer and person, and your be...You are a wonderful writer and person, and your beautiful children are so lucky to have you. If you haven't already read them, I'd highly recommend these books - Touching the Edge: A Mother's Spiritual Path from Loss to Life by Margaret Wurtele, and A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss by Jerry Sittser. Both authors come from a Christian perspective I don't share, but that could not be less relevant. They are kindred spirits you might want to "meet."<br /><br />Elisabeth Kubler-Ross researched life after death and had numerous experiences of interviewing people involved in accidents where multiple family members were hurt or killed. She would hear a child close to death in one hospital say, "Mommy and Joey are waiting for me," when Elisabeth did not know that the girl's mother was dead, only to be told by the nurses when she left the child's room that the other hospital had called to say the mother had died. <br /><br />That reminds me of one other book you might find comfort in - Risk to be Healed: The Heart of Personal and Relationship Growth by Joyce and Barry Vissell. Joyce felt an irresistible call to get pregnant again after their family had felt complete with two daughters. That child then died in utero. The book is, in part, about what they learned about life and love from that angel/child.<br /><br />Peace to you.Michelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-39357768996806437952009-12-31T19:41:00.217-05:002009-12-31T19:41:00.217-05:00I just learned about your blog today from your ...I just learned about your blog today from your 'life' story in the PG. After reading your most recent blog, I just want to say, I'm proud of you.R~https://www.blogger.com/profile/05272800531290927868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-47213841909978627022009-12-31T17:06:30.471-05:002009-12-31T17:06:30.471-05:00You are very special and very brave. Continue to ...You are very special and very brave. Continue to keep those closely guarded special memories of your children and marriage that you loved. There are many of us who try to cling to those special memories who have been confronted by the conflict and loss of divorce.<br /><br />Take the time to find your "why" and you will live fully again. I am touched and humbled to read your words and the expression of your attitude in the face of your suffering.<br /><br />I hope that you continue to choose to live your life conveyed in the dignity of your words. The new year is upon us--all that I can say is "I am sorry-you are very courageous."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-89172208196272464212009-12-31T13:53:32.603-05:002009-12-31T13:53:32.603-05:00Amy,
Thank you for baring your soul. I found you...Amy,<br /><br />Thank you for baring your soul. I found your blog through the Post Gazette link. <br /><br />I used to be a pediatric oncology nurse and I'm now a school nurse. Sadly, I know many moms who are living through everyday grieving the loss of a child. It jsut sucks.<br /><br />To think that society can just forget a decade just because it wasn't a particulary happy one is just bullshit. It is these challenges that we rise to that make us better people. To "forget" the 2000's would be to deny the existence of your children and many other children who have left their fingerprints on the hearts of so many.<br /><br />Please continue to share your feelings through this blog. I have forwarded it to some of those moms that I know as they have shared many of the same thoughts and feelings. <br /><br />I've had a little too much caffeine and I seem to be rambling, but Pittsburgh is a great place to be. I am currently living in the Midwest and nothing can compare to the Burgh.<br /><br />I hope that 2010 brings you peace.<br />BBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08179828528480746220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-81428671744771411922009-12-31T13:28:58.032-05:002009-12-31T13:28:58.032-05:00Amy,
Greetings from Vermont. My friend La...Amy,<br /> Greetings from Vermont. My friend Larry in Pittsburgh forwarded the newspaper article and blog URL to me this morning. I've been lookign through your blog on and off this morning, reading about you, Kate and peter and I feel a great kinship. I am resisting the urge to say 'I know how you feel' .. because I know that I dodn't .. We're just traveling the same road. <br />Our beutiful 14 year old son Sam died in a traffic accident in November of 2006. He was an amazing person... an old soul. You can read a little about him if you'd like at I've been keeping a daily blog of our path as well. it's been such an important part of our healing. http://blog.myspace.com/johncohn<br /> I guess my only reason for writing is to say.. that we feel for you.. and admire your writing. Keep it up.. it help more than you know. Good lock on your journey. <br />-jc (sam's dad)john cohnhttp://blog.myspace.com/johncohnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-74015250774734033162009-12-31T13:11:32.321-05:002009-12-31T13:11:32.321-05:00Amy, your ability to share what's going on in ...Amy, your ability to share what's going on in your life with such honesty and humor amazes and impresses me to no end. I hope that when you write about your next decade in 2020 there's a lot less OMG, WTF?? and a lot more LOL! Best wishes for 2010 and always.<br /><br />Your fan,<br />E.Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02417271554476826764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-59767483394356661912009-12-31T12:33:12.750-05:002009-12-31T12:33:12.750-05:00You have such an incredible strength and positivit...You have such an incredible strength and positivity. You make me want to be a better person and mother. Thank you for sharing all that you have. I am praying for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-80978266713330063892009-12-31T11:54:05.356-05:002009-12-31T11:54:05.356-05:00All I can say is, even though I've never met y...All I can say is, even though I've never met you, I'm sending you a hug that I reserve for my family and closest friends. Stay strong.Magnus Patrishttp://www.magnuspatris.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-5315869215036539992009-12-31T11:48:15.183-05:002009-12-31T11:48:15.183-05:00Just read through your blog. I am in the inner ci...Just read through your blog. I am in the inner circle that all mothers pray does not get bigger. I lost my son this past year and also trying to cope and figure the world out without him in it. I was fortunate to have Matt for 26 years but you still wonder what they would of done the next year and next year. Friends are the best at these time and I am glad to hear you have many around you. I as you did lose him in the Erie area and to make that drive knowing what you are going to cannot be explained. <br />Thanks for the words and expressing so much that is in the soul of parents who have lost someone that was their blood and soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-78412647398852893132009-12-31T11:47:35.151-05:002009-12-31T11:47:35.151-05:00Amy,
CORRECTION to my post - I AM a part of your ...Amy,<br /><br />CORRECTION to my post - I AM a part of your community. (I need to work on my editing skills!) Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-49644540748412966312009-12-31T11:45:38.486-05:002009-12-31T11:45:38.486-05:00Amy,
I'm a Pittsburgher who saw your story in...Amy,<br /><br />I'm a Pittsburgher who saw your story in the Post-Gazette. I struggle to come up with a word to describe you - strong? courageous? wise beyond your years? To have experienced so much pain when you are still so young - you could indeed say WTF! in an endless loop.<br />Thank you for this blog - it has already helped me in a way - to keep things in perspective. I have been unemployed for about a year. Thoughts of suicide have occurred to me - suprised the hell out of me - I've never thought I would even consider it. I am not totally insane to actually go through with it. Knowing that the act would only hurt the very people I love - my wife and children - keeps me going. Just one step at a time, just breathe.<br />And losing a job? How can that even compare to what you are dealing with.<br />Thank you for your courage - you are probably helping more people that you could ever realize. I am not part of your community. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-48703548688440342232009-12-31T11:29:24.253-05:002009-12-31T11:29:24.253-05:00Amy, what a wonderful article in the post gazette....Amy, what a wonderful article in the post gazette. I found you from That's Church a while back and have passed it on to many of my friends and family. I am so glad that through this article even more people will learn about the incredible woman you are, the incredible life your children had, and the amazing thing you are doing for all or your readers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-41866617639638891332009-12-31T11:28:23.938-05:002009-12-31T11:28:23.938-05:00Amy, I just read about you and your blog on P-G. ...Amy, I just read about you and your blog on P-G. I think it is amazing at how you are dealing with such a tragedy. I admire your perspective and think that more people out there should read your blog so that they realize that they have a lot to be thankful for and to not take anything for granted.<br /><br />My first marriage ended in divorce because my husband was gay...so I can relate to your feeling on that. It is quite a shock, but it is awesome that you could stay friends. <br /><br />I have no children, so I cant even imagine what you are going through. I want to have children really bad, but my new husband and I are having fertility problems and may not be able to. Which is heart-breaking to the both of us. But as hard as that is for us.....I could not imagine having children, getting to know them and then losing them. I am in awe of your strength and the creative way you decided to vent your emotions. You give me strength to not give up in my own struggles. Thank you. I wish you all the best. <br /><br />PS..I would read a book named OMG! WTF?! too! :-)kiki379https://www.blogger.com/profile/07495544512246463047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8175052726850101879.post-68345999004596610502009-12-31T11:15:14.269-05:002009-12-31T11:15:14.269-05:00"With all its sham, drudgery and broken dream..."With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."<br /><br />You epitomize this, Amy. God bless you on your journey.Christinehttp://www.writingbyear.comnoreply@blogger.com